Yeah, I have a lot of wants and it might be driving me a little crazy. I didn't think I would be the first to crack, but I was. Our kids quickly followed and my husband is getting close. I know that we are lucky. We have a place to live and it is our place. It isn't borrowed, it isn't a hotel, and we have four walls and air-conditioning. While we are homeless by official definition, we still have a home, even if it doesn't feel like "home." While I may be dreaming of a shopping trip to Ikea where I will actually be able to buy stuff, I'm also mentally purging as I remember all of the stuff that we have to move into a house that is 1000 square feet smaller than our last house. If anything, camper living has taught me the lesson that I have been teaching my writing students for years: "Less is more." And while we are still displaced, the light is at the end of the tunnel. Some days that light seems dimmer, some days it seems brighter, but it is still there.
In the two months between the decision to move and the actual act of moving, I carefully watched both of our children. I watched our son's behavior take a nosedive as his world appeared to be spiraling out of his four-year-old control. I watched as our six-year-old daughter interacted with and said goodbye to her … Continue reading Discovering They’re Hurting
One of the many things that I feel made moving different for me as a child was the kind of loss that I felt as we pulled away from each of our homes. For me, home was where my friends were. Home was where I felt comfortable. Home was where my stuff was. While I … Continue reading Turning Home Back Into House
Our childhood experiences shape the kinds of lives we want our children to live. Often we desire to make our children's lives better and our definition of "better" is determined by our own pasts. Those desires can take a nasty turn. Far too many parents have been accused of trying to live through their children's lives … Continue reading When History Repeats Itself
Nothing like preparing to move to show you just how much stuff you have. Seriously. We have A LOT of stuff. Even before I accepted the call to teach down in Texas, I started sorting through all the stuff in our house and tried Facebook garage sale sites and donating certain items to various organizations. … Continue reading Getting Ready for the Simple Life